I joined adult friend finder and was so put off by the whole thing that I deleted my account within a month. All that you get is generic messages from people that I am sure are not even real. Also, I received a bunch of emails from people that just wanted me to join other dating sites and pay them money. At first glance it looks like there are a lot of people on there and that it is a legitimate way to meet people. When you look closer, you can tell that it is 90% people just trying to get money out of you.